Here in the U.S., researchers and divorce lawyers estimate that roughly 50% of all first marriages and 60% of all second marriages end in divorce. While there are a number of totally reasonable and all too common causes for couples to call it quits, there are also a few reasons that don't seem so logical.
Below is a list of some strange predictors of divorce cited by divorce attorneys (and they should know).
Five Weird Predictors of Divorce
- Having an expensive wedding. "Expensive" can mean different things to different people, but these lawyers put on actual number on it. They say that couples who spend more than $20,000 on their wedding are actually more likely to divorce. Sadly, the average cost of a wedding these days is about $25,000.
- Living in a red state. The divorce rate is actually higher in typically conservative or Republican states. In fact, the highest divorce rates can be found in Oklahoma, Arkansas, and Alaska.
- No higher education. Statistics show that couples who did not go to college are more likely to get a divorce than those who did. Whether this is financial, cultural, or simply a coincidence, researchers aren't sure.
- Having a long commute. A study in 2013 revealed that 14% of people with a commute to work of 45 minutes or longer end up divorcing their spouse. The theory is that a long commute causes stress, which can irreparably damage a relationship.
- Spending too much time on social media. Who doesn't check their Facebook at least once a day? We're all guilty of relying a little too much on external validation from the online community, but studies show that Facebook is actually tearing couples apart. People find themselves reconnecting with old flings and scrutinizing their partner's online activity, causing trust and respect to crumble. Divorce attorneys in the U.K. actually attributed one-third of all 2012 divorce cases to the inappropriate use of social media.
Now that you know, are you more or less concerned about the fate of your marriage? Ultimately, the best way to avoid a nasty divorce is to keep the lines of communication open and to always be kind, mindful, and respectful.