Anyone who has been through a divorce can tell you that there are unique challenges that they faced. One person might have an aggressive and manipulative spouse who tries to drag out the divorce. Another may have a nearly unresponsive spouse who does their best not to receive the divorce papers or to be served for any purpose.
No matter what kind of divorce you’re going through, there are some tips that can help. Here are five to consider.
1. Let your attorney do the heavy lifting
It can be extremely helpful to allow your attorney to handle the bulk of the divorce case. Whether it’s reaching out to the other party or filing court documents, having an attorney do the hard work gives you more time for focusing on your own health.
2. Get your documents in order
One good tip is to make sure you get your documents in order. Whether that includes stock portfolios, bank account statements and bills, or proof of adultery, you want to have copies available fo your attorney.
3. Avoid conflict
It’s possible that every interaction with your spouse will be conflicted. That’s not enjoyable, so remember to do what you can to avoid those conflicts. Whether that means using a neutral drop-off point for your children or using a court-monitored texting program for communicating, find a way to deescalate the situation.
4. Be flexible
Flexibility can be helpful during a divorce. For example, if your spouse is trying to get the house, but you want to live in it, the better choice may be to sell it and split the proceeds equitably. With a little flexibility, you can make decisions that move the divorce forward instead of ending up in a stalemate.
5. Give yourself a break
Finally, give yourself a break. You’re only one person, and this is a stressful situation. Take a break from seeing people who want all the details of your divorce or those who are negative. Dedicate a day or two a week to focus on divorce and don’t work on it otherwise. By being able to find a balance while working through your divorce, you’ll be able to de-stress and move forward more quickly.
These are a few ways that you can help yourself as you move through your divorce. There are people available to help you, so you will get through this difficult time.